Times are changing fast and what was unheard of a few years back is now becoming the norm. Whether it is because of health, finances, family or choice, many men are opting to become stay at home dads. This is a drastic change from the days when almost every mother was a stay at home mom while the husband was the main breadwinner.
Being a stay at home dad means that you will have to leave your job, shoulder more housework, take care of the kids and stay at home most of the time. It however does not mean that you are less of a man; in contrast you are a rare gem among the human male species. The most important thing is to be in agreement with the whole family, especially your partner, about the decision to become a stay at home dad.
So how do you ensure that the transition from an office job to a full time home job goes on smoothly? Here are a few tips to help you manage your new job description.
Discuss it with your partner
This is very important. As long as you both agree that you staying at home is the best decision, then it will work out alright. If either one of you disagrees it may lead to a lot of anger and resentment.
Be comfortable with the idea
If you are unwilling to go along with the idea of being a stay at home dad, you will probably hate every minute if the ride. Know why the transition is necessary and think of how it will benefit everyone in the family.
Learn what is expected
Contrary to what many people think, being a stay at home dad or mum does not mean that you get up at any time and do whatever you want. If there are kids around, they are usually the ones who will set the schedule. So be ready to work full time. Learn what staying at home will encompass and the amount of work time and leisure time you will have.
Be ready to up your social skills
Taking care of the kids means going for play dates and interacting with other families. Your social skills should therefore be at their best.
Being a stay at home dad means having only one breadwinner. Therefore, you have to make sure that your partner’s income is adequate for the whole family. If it is not, taking up a home based internet job is not such a bad idea.
Making it as a stay at home dad requires continued support from the family. Whether it is from your partner, your kids or extended family, it matters a lot.
In most cases, men are not fully ready to become stay at home dads. Circumstances force the situation upon them. With a few changes however, especially in attitude, you can make the best out of the situation, both for you and for your whole family.